Fewer than half of expectant parents discuss sharing their parental leave and over three-quarters, wouldn’t want to have shared parental leave

Shared parental leave

Take-up of Shared Parental Leave has remained stagnant, with the main reason given for not taking it being financial. The new survey from Workingmums.co.uk’s annual survey shows that regardless of Shared Parental Pay being raised, this would make no difference to the decision of over half of those who say finances are the main barrier.


The underlying issue for parents’ decisions, even if they are not overtly stated and highlight the importance of open, honest conversations around Shared Parental Leave.


The survey reveals that 37% would consider taking Shared Parental Leave. While 43% of those who wouldn’t take it stated financial issues as the main contributor, and a further 66% of those said enhancing Shared Parental Pay would not make a difference to their decision. In total 59% of the respondents said enhancing SPP would not make a difference to their decision.


The research comes as Workingmums.co.uk and DaddiLife launch a set of videos of couples in conversation about SPL. The videos capture the kind of issues couples who have opted for the leave and those who haven’t have wrestled with and give a flavour of some of the sometimes-unspoken issues at play.

There was a plethora of reasons for couples not wanting to share leave, with the top ones being:

- mums didn’t want to share their leave [17%]

- worries the dad’s career would suffer [12%]

- didn’t know enough about it [11%]

- the legislation is too complicated [5%].


The survey also revealed that 83% of women admitted they would take more leave than their partner if they took SPL. Only 15% said they would share it evenly. This shows that the majority of couples are stuck in the traditional mind frame, that the mother should spend the majority of their leave with a newborn.


Another issue that emerged from the survey was that many expectant couples had not even discussed it. More than twice as many couples had not discussed it as had discussed it.


The videos show how couples who have opted for SPL have negotiated the complex legislation and the kind of issues they have come up against. They suggest how employers could support employees better. They also show the emotional impact of their decision in terms of stronger family relations and how they have negotiated the pitfalls, such as concerns about any possible impact on the dad’s career and guilt about taking several months off work.


One mum Eulalia Pereira stated: “As a mother there is a sense you should be doing everything. I know (because of taking SPL) that Martin on a day to day basis is there, that he is involved with the kids. I could not have hoped for more. Shared Parental Leave is an illustration that he is absolutely there; it is a level of commitment he is illustrating.”


Dad Sam Russell said: “Having Rowan [and sharing parental leave] has given us a bit more rounded view on who we are as a family. It will take time for the culture and mindset to change. People of our age will be the next chief executives and MDs. We are the first generation to see the idea of taking extended time off as being a normal thing and not to be held against anyone.


Another couple speak about their decision not to take SPL and hint at some of the underlying reasons. They explain that flexible working has enabled greater involvement by the dad without the need for sharing care.


Dad Elliott Rae adds: “I would have been open to taking Shared Parental Leave if my wife had been, but I was around enough. My most important thing was that my wife and daughter were okay…and what was best for the family unit.”


Gillian Nissim, founder of Workingmums.co.uk, said: “It is disappointing to see how low the take-up of Shared Parental Leave has been. Part of the problem is no doubt the complexity of the legislation and lack of awareness. Finances clearly play a big role and generally there are concerns about the way the legislation is framed. At the moment this is what we have to work with though and at the heart of the legislation is open, honest conversations between parents about what is best for every member of the family and what impact any decisions they take in the first months of their baby’s life might have in the future. We hope these videos will help to promote those conversations.”


Han-Son Lee, founder of DaddiLife, said: “Though Shared Parental Leave has been a much welcomed policy that gives fathers and mothers the chance to have more balanced time with their newborns, it’s clear from the latest research that there are still many barriers to overcome for more take up. Finances will always be a challenge for many, but what’s more striking from these latest figures is the lack of real conversation that’s happening around it. Though the policy won’t always be right for everyone, what’s been truly encouraging from our parents videos is how different types of discussions have lead to more quality time that parents often cry out for more of. Hopefully more can have the type of discussions about SPL that really get each other thinking about it fully.”